“No,” I answered.
“Shit,” she whispered, becoming unfocused for several seconds before she again focused on me. “Is Amber good?”
“Amber’s fine,” I told her.
“She isn’t, well…this is strange, talking to you about this, but she isn’t picking up my calls.”
I couldn’t have agreed more that this was strange and decided to tell her as much.
“It is indeed strange you talking to me about this for I barely know you and we’re discussing something colossally important, that being your daughter,” I declared. “I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t be making some attempt to communicate directly to her, even if she isn’t picking up her phone. I would assume you know where she attends school as well as lives so these are not mysteries you need to cipher before you make a connection with her.”
Her mouth had dropped open making her look rather comically dull but I was far from done.
“Further, if Amber isn’t answering your calls, you know her father and you can discuss the daughter you share directly with him. Why you would approach me in a gourmet food store aisle I cannot fathom and I’ll tell you now, it makes me uncomfortable.”
I stopped talking and she had no reply for long moments before she stated, “Boy, you don’t beat around the bush.”
“Not normally, no. But when it comes to Jake, Conner and Amber, I never will.”
Something changed in her face and her voice was quite strange when she remarked, “It’s cool they have that from you.”
“It would be cooler if they had something, anything from you,” I retorted.
Her expression again changed. She flinched.
But she said not a word.
So I did.
“Listen, I’ve explained to you that I’m quite busy but I’ll take this moment to say more. It appears you care that you’ve lost your connection with your children and I find that quite gratifying but only with the hope you’ll do something about it. However, you’ve been disconnected for so long, it has affected not only your two children but Jake’s youngest. Ethan loves his brother and sister very much, circumstances force that family to be quite dependent on each other and as Ethan is still quite young, he’s obviously more dependent on his father and siblings than the rest. If you were to suddenly make some overtures, for Ethan’s sake, you may wish to be thoughtful in how you do it.”
I stopped talking and she remained silent so I went on.
“Also, as I never really had one, I can only assume that a son and daughter would welcome their mother in their life. But as you’ve blundered quite horribly with your two children, although I urge you to rectify that and do it very soon, I would also urge you to speak with Jake about it so as you do it you don’t cause undo upheaval that will be difficult for him and those kids to handle.”
“You want me talking to Jake?” she asked, sounding incredulous, and I felt my brows draw together.
“You’re the mother of two of his children,” I answered.
“But I’m also his ex. I mean, we were married and we have history,” she told me.
“Indeed. Though your last word is quite crucial. History,” I replied.
She again flinched.
I studied her closely.
Surely this woman wasn’t that oblivious. Years had passed.
“Donna, as I’ve been blunt, I will continue to be so. If you hold a candle for Jake, I’d extinguish it. He’s quite forthcoming and what once was between you is very gone.”
Another flinch.
Good God.
She was that oblivious.
“Okay, this is weirding me out,” she declared. “I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have talked to you about this.”
“Indeed, you shouldn’t have. But you did. And I’d encourage you to take on board what I said.” I hesitated to underline my final point. “All of it.”
She held my eyes and replied, “I don’t mean to be funny. Truly I don’t. Mrs. Malone was really cool and folks who know you say you’re like her. But you should know, Jake and I are complicated and the kind of history we have is never really gone.”
She was absolutely that oblivious.
I couldn’t believe it, but as it was right there in front of me, I found it very sad.
Therefore, I gentled my tone when I told her, “If you believe that, I’m very sorry. Jake and you are not complicated because there is no Jake and you. It appears you’ve been working under the misconception that that’s the case, but I advise you to cease doing so for your own sake.”
“Again, not to be funny, but he’s come back to me before,” she pointed out.
“He also left you, and since then married two other women and then met me,” I volleyed.
She shook her head, clearly my words weren’t penetrating and this was proved when she started, “I don’t mean to be mean but you should—”
“You aren’t being mean, Donna,” I interrupted her and went on firmly in an effort to end this enlightening but nevertheless wretched discussion. “But you are taking quite a bit of my time. Please, phone Jake. Discuss all this with him. I think it will be difficult for you but in the end beneficial and hopefully beneficial for Amber and Conner too.”
“God,” she whispered, her eyes widening. “You totally don’t have any problems with me talking to Jake.”
“Not a one,” I replied. “Now, again, not to be rude but I really must be getting on.”
“I…” Another shake of her head. “Okay.”
“Phone Jake,” I urged.
“I…” She shook her head yet again but said, “I will.”
“Good day to you, Donna.”
“Um…good day to you too, Josie.”
I wanted to roll my eyes at her calling me Josie again. It was true that I was getting that from practically everyone these days but from her I didn’t like it all that much.
However, I found our conversation more than mildly exasperating and I wanted it to end so I didn’t say a word. Nodding my head to her once, I turned back to my cart and my attention back to my list.
It was much later, indeed well after the children and the Taylors gave their exuberant stamp of approval not only to my truffle risotto but to the variety of bruschettas that I’d made as an appetizer, that I was alone with Jake in the kitchen making hot fudge sundaes.
It was then I told him of my conversation with Donna.