“I’m here for you , sweetie.” It took every ounce of willpower for me not to give Matt the look , as my children called it, as I said this. “I’m happy to do whatever you’d like.”
I stayed through Cecily’s bedtime, even though I needed to get online and finish my annual self-evaluation, which was due in two days, and had just received an email from camp saying there was a lice outbreak and I would need to buy a special comb and go through my children’s hair—and PS: backpacks, lunches, and extra clothes would have to be brought to camp in a trash bag each day until further notice. I reminded myself that asking Sanjay to handle it wasn’t just a good idea; it was part of our deal. He must have been thinking about that, too, because when I sent him a quick message he texted back, Already on it.
“Thanks for having me over,” I said to Matt as he walked me to the front door. Cecily had already hugged me goodbye and was upstairs getting ready for bed.
“I’m glad you came by. Cecily was happier than I’ve seen her since . . .” His voice trailed off. “Well, you know.”
I knew. “We’d love to have her over in a few days, if you think that might be all right.”
“Absolutely,” he said.
I slipped my shoes on and regarded him. The tension from our earlier conversation was nearly gone, and I didn’t want to ruin it by saying something. But as I reached for the doorknob, I realized I couldn’t swallow my words. Not when it came to Cecily.
“Matt, you probably know this already, but Cecily’s going to need more attention than she’ll ever ask for,” I said.
“Okay,” he said. The word came out as a question. He looked at me, waiting for me to say more.
“That’s all,” I said to him. “I’ll see you both soon.”
I was no therapist, but Cecily would probably feel like she needed to act as though she were fine—just like Jenny had, I realized with a pang. Her sorrow would reveal itself from time to time, but she would likely seem calm and poised, and everyone would say she was so, so brave.
But while they were busy praising her, they might not notice that she was starting to fill in the daily holes left by her mother. That her grief followed her like a shadow.
That she was missing out on parts of her childhood that would haunt her long after they had passed.
That evening, I brought my laptop and a glass of wine up to bed. I had intended to finish my review, but when I looked at the dent in the sheets beside me, I was reminded that I still had not sent my list of changes to Sanjay, who was working downstairs. I should have emailed him after we talked two days earlier. Well, better late than never. I opened a blank email and began to type.
Hi. Here’s my list:
Make more money. Maybe find a part-time job.
Help out more around the house and with the kids.
Be more present when you’re with me.
xo, Penny
But could I really sign with kisses and hugs after giving my husband a short list of his personal and marital deficiencies?
I erased the xo and wrote,
I love you.
Then, for reasons I could not explain, I erased that, too, and replaced it with Love .
Then I quickly hit “Send” before I had a chance to continue to overthink it.
Good job, I heard Jenny say.
I was no longer worried about losing my mind—it had probably gone missing years earlier, anyway. But these chats I’d been having with Jenny seemed impossible, and not just because she was dead. Which person was I even speaking to? The friend I thought I’d known—or the woman who had been hidden beneath all that polish?
Impossible or not, I still felt compelled to answer. “Thank you,” I said. “I’m trying.”
“Who are you talking to?” Sanjay had appeared in the doorway, toothbrush in hand.
“Myself,” I lied.
He raised an eyebrow. “Should I be worried?”
Probably? But radical honesty or not, I wasn’t ready to tell him about the mental conversations Jenny and I had been having. “I’m fine,” I said.
“You know it’s okay if you’re not, right?”
I frowned. “What does that mean?”
He sighed. “It means I love you, Penny.”
Then he was gone. I heard his footsteps creaking down the hall, and then the sound of the bathroom door closing. I squeezed my eyes shut, waiting for Jenny’s voice to return. Instead, I fell into a deep and dreamless sleep.
FIFTEEN
Most people say they want the truth. What they mean is that they want it if it’s palatable. I was surprised to realize that the majority of our mutual friends and acquaintances were pacified by the explanation that Jenny had been the victim of an unspecified prescription error. (“It happens more often than you think,” Sanjay’s father, Arjun, had said, and since he wrote prescriptions, he would know.) I wondered if they believed this, or if they were worried additional information might soil Jenny’s memory.
Jael was not most people. We met for a drink a few days after giving Sanjay my list. I’d wanted to see her but had been putting it off; our conversation at the memorial service led me to believe she would pepper me with questions about Jenny’s death.
I wasn’t wrong.
We’d barely sat down when she began asking: What kind of medication was it? Was the family suing the pharmacy that provided the prescription? What about her doctor or even the drug company? Weren’t they at fault, too? Someone had to be held accountable.
I had some of these very questions myself, but all I could do was weakly reply that I didn’t know. I hated lying and was pretty sure the omissions I was making were one and the same. In desperation, I had finally suggested she reach out to Matt to ask him herself. I was relieved when she said that she would.
“One down,” said Jael. She waved her empty wineglass at our waiter. Then she looked at my glass, which was still nearly full. “At least grief isn’t turning you into a lush.”
“I’m just tired today.” I took a small sip of my drink. If I hadn’t had to keep my wits about me, I probably would have tossed the entire glass back like a shot and immediately repeated the process.
She gave me a sad smile. “I have so many regrets, you know? I hadn’t seen Jenny in almost two months before she died. I’d been really bad about seeing anyone, really, since Caleb was born,” she said, referring to her third child.
It wasn’t just her. Our friendship circle had casually unraveled around the time Sonia had become part of the one percent. When I ran into Jael at Jenny’s memorial service, it had been nearly half a year since she and I had last gotten together, and I’d almost not recognized her at first. She’d lost weight—a combination of nonstop nursing and no time to eat, she said apologetically, probably because motherhood had the opposite effect on me—and her black hair was streaked with gray. Her face was bare, and brambles of fine lines had formed around her eyes. She looked decades older than the last time we’d met up, as though the years of her life had all shown up at once.
“Listen, we’ve all been bad about getting together,” I told Jael. “Don’t beat yourself up.”
“Yes, but I avoided Jenny for the wrong reason. I felt so guilty about getting pregnant with Caleb when she’s had such a struggle because of her endometriosis. And you know, with forty just around the corner . . . it seemed like that chapter of her life was over. That must have been hard on her and Matt.”
I paused, my wineglass halfway to my mouth, wondering how to respond. I knew Jenny had wanted another child, but she had also said she had come to love their family of three exactly as it was.
Now I had to wonder if that was the whole story.
“That’s what it was, wasn’t it?” Jael said suddenly. “The hormones she was taking. I read that they can cause fatal blood clots in women over thirty-five.”
“It’s possible,” I fibbed.
“I bet it was,” she said, nodding. “When I told Jenny I was pregnant again, she said they had moved past it a long time ago. But I don’t know if that’s something you can ever really move past, especially when it doesn’t work out. My sister had secondary infertility, and it was really hard on her, even after she ended up having another child.”
“At least Jenny and Matt didn’t mind trying.”
Jael gave me a funny look. “What do you mean?”
“They were like rabbits.” I quickly amended myself: “Well, maybe not rabbits.”
“Because rabbits make lots of babies.”
“Sorry—that was me sticking my foot in my mouth,” I said, embarrassed. “But you know how Jenny was always talking about how they did it every day when he was home—sometimes even twice a day. Sanjay and I haven’t been like that since we were in our early twenties.” I hesitated, then added, “He wants us to have sex more often.”
Jael rolled her eyes. “Men. If I’ve learned one thing, though, it’s that having to do it saps the joy right out of it. Tony and I only ever had to try with Rachel,” she said, referring to her eldest. “But it was the worst . In my experience, the fastest way to murder your libido is to remove spontaneity from the equation.”